Wednesday, April 9, 2014

More than You Think by Jharmaine Boyd (poetry)

God has been so crazy faithful and taking us places that we thought was ever possible. I wanted to take the time to share my first project with you guys. Grace and Peace!


Monday, April 7, 2014

My Emotional Savior...Jesus Christ

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Grow up and stop crying...Don't be a slave to your emotions...Women are so emotional so learn how to control yours...I would constantly hear these statements as a child. Yes, it is true that we should have control over our emotions. We should stop/think before reacting and not act solely based on our feelings because they are forever changing. However, I was afraid of becoming the super emotional women who couldn't control hers. I would watch how the lack of control over your feelings was destructive. Also I was being taught that expressing negative emotions was a weakness. Because of that, I made the decision as a child that I would not feel. When I was angry, it was cool. When I sad, it was cool. When I was frustrated, it was cool. Whenever I felt any "negative"/dark emotion, it didn't matter because I was cool...

Since I chose to not express my emotions, I would have a breaking point. You know the saying, "the straw that broke the camel's back"? This is how I dealt with my emotions throughout my teenager years and adult life. I would just keep a tally in my head of all of the things that would happen against me. (1 Corn. 13:5) SIDE-NOTEI say this not because I am perfect, but it's hard to see your imperfections if you are keeping tallies of everyone else's wrongs against you. Back to the storyI would never bring it to that person because I didn't want to feel.  Some would say I was being phony and you can call it that, but truth be told I was running away from my fears of losing control. I kept my deepest feelings to myself because I believed the lie that they weren't important. I would just roll it off my shoulder and keep it moving. When I could no longer do that or once the straw broke, I would cut that person off and be done with them. Talk about pride! This led to a very unhealthy life of unforgiveness, malice/anger stored in my heart towards others (which is murder in my heart), surface relationships, and not being able to handle/accept the feelings of others (i.e. lack of compassion). All because I didn't want to express my true emotions and handle the problem. Yeah...pretty unhealthy and extremely prideful. 
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This definitely trickled over into dealing with the emotions of others. If someone was mad at me or saddened by something I did, I would always rationalize my actions by making excuses or psychoanalyze their feelings. Better yet, pride would step in and I would think, "All the things I put up with concerning them....I do this one thing and they get bend all out of shape. Why can't they just let it slide like I do and be cool about it?" A true, compassionate apology was definitely not my forte. Yeah, the pride keeps coming!

Because, I didn't express my "negative" emotions (sadness, anger, etc.) I expected others to do the same. When they did express those feelings, all I saw was weakness. I would think to myself, "I never want to look like them. I always want to be able to control my emotions. Just be cool as a cucumber." So I would deal with my emotions in other destructive, nonverbal, crafty ways. I would refuse to talk about situations that required me to express negative emotions by shutting down, or I would become addicted to something, or preoccupied with some intrusive activity that would prevent me from spending time with others. This was all a result of the lack of willpower in caring for my own personal problems and willingness to display my emotions...

Then the amazing happened, I met My Emotional Savior...Jesus Christ. I read The Gospels and learnt how Jesus felt and express all of these emotions! I couldn't believe some of His feelings. I knew that Jesus felt love, gratitude, compassion, etc. But I also learnt that He felt dark emotions outwardly like: sadness (John 11:35), anger towards the people He loved (Mark 10:14), frustration (Mark 8:12), loneliness/emptiness (Matt 27:46), etc. Jesus Christ did more than die on a tree, but He taught us how to live. For me, a part of that was sharing my dark/negative emotions with control. He took my blinders off and made me acknowledge my hidden emotions. (Proverbs 28:13) He made me realize that I was in a battle of deception and denial with myself. I had to take COMPLETE responsibility for being unforgiving (read here about forgiveness) and storing anger in my heart towards others. I couldn't say that I loved Jesus and hate my brother (1 John 4:20). I had to take FULL responsibility for the things I did wrong towards others and repent. I really understood how repentance doesn't make us weak. It is a gift from God that made me realize that I was imperfect and in need of a Savior. 

I am a firm believer of your relationship with God is shown in direct reflection with others around you. If you aren't real and honest with God, you are unable to be real and honest with imperfect humans. I had to get real and honest with God about all of my feelings, even the deepest emotional secrets. Once I did that, I was able to start expressing those emotions to others in a healthy way. He also made me realize that I desired control and I would place a list of "shouldas" and "oughtas" on family and friends. He replaced my desire for control with the deepest love. He helped me accept others where they are and not where I think they should be. Talk about a SAVIOR!!!  

For so long, I felt like I have been living life with my nostrils barely above water. I felt like I was always fighting to keep myself from drowning in my own anger, unforgiveness, and lack of compassionate towards others. When I became transparent with God with all of my emotions, is when I felt free. I finally understood Jesus just didn't die for me to go to Heaven, but to live a new life here on Earth and TRULY love His people. I have learnt and still am learning to express my feelings in a healthy way to people. In turn, I am learning to be more like my Savior, Jesus Christ. 

C.S. Lewis stated it in this way: 
God could, had he pleased, have been incarnate in a man or iron nerves, the stoic sort who lets no sigh escape him. Of his great humility he chose to be incarnate in a made of delicate sensibilities who wept at the grave of Lazarus and sweated blood in Gethsemane. Otherwise we should have missed the great lesson that it is by his will alone that man is good or bad and that feelings are not, in themselves, of any importance. We should also have missed the all-important help of knowing that he faced all that the weakest of us face, has shared not only the strength of our nature but every weakness of it except sin. If he had natural courage, that would have been for many of us almost the same as his not being incarnate at all.

Couldn't have hoped for a better Savior than Jesus! Grace and Peace. 
Celebrating the Born Day of the person who makes me
share my deepest stuff the most besides Jesus! 
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Tuesday, March 25, 2014

Event Recap - The Great Banquet

Wow...this event was...mind altering...just amazing. We want to give a very big thank you for each and every one of our volunteers. You were so great and we could not have done it without you. We want to thank the Community for Creative Non-Violence (CCNV) for allowing us to serve you! It was such a great experience and we hope to do it again in the future.

Were you unable to volunteer? Did you donate and would love to see the event? See below for the great pictures taken by John Cahill! We also would like to thank Faithfully There for providing us with The Great Banquet Shirts! 

Interested in our upcoming event? Learn more...

Preparing for The Great Banquet
Wrapping presents! 

Ms. Jazmin Doss

Ms. Official checking in volunteers
Making friends

All smiles about serving...
and more smiles...
and more smiles!
Preparing for foot washing! 

Don't forget about that balloon!

Preparing the prayer section
Preparing tables!

Getting ready!

Ms. Meisha aka Expert Waffle Maker
Preparing the music!

Is everything good to go for the music?
The lovely prayer leader!
Our first lady aka Expert Juice Pourer! 
The RU crew
Even more smiles....
The famous John Cahill! 
Almost ready!
Let's huddle up
The amazing volunteers who made it all possible!
The prayer group became a family! :) 
The tables are ready to be occupied!

The feet are ready to be washed!
The presents are ready to be given!
Making friends

Sporting  Faithfully There The Great Banquet shirts!
Thanks Faithfully There for your donation!
The kitchen is up and going!

Our juice section is ready!
Providing Bibles

I think we are ready!
Preparing for the ladies to walk in! 
Ahhh...Foot Washing! 

Someone looks relaxed and
The FOOD! 
Chicken and Waffles!

Shrimp & Grits!

And drinks!
Of course...Prayer! 

We had extra food so we brought it to the streets!
Making new friends! 

Pouring the good ole' OJ

and more smiles...
and more OJ...
and more Apple Juice! 

A little entertainment for the ladies!
Poetry by Canden Webb...Check her out here!
Nothing, but God-given talent! 

Poetry by Jharmaine Boyd 

Praise and Worship by Rene Rogers...
and Chinedu Ezebuiroh

Sharing the good news! 
Sorting donations! 

The presents! From soap to 
feminine products to 
more feminine products and more

Giving out goodies!

Some of the lovely ladies from CCNV

Faithfully There Fashion Shoot!

Thank God, all of the volunteers, CCNV, and Zion Church
for making this possible!